Hello friends! My name is Kiarrah, welcome to my blog! I started this blog to help educate, encourage and inspire women who are natural, transitioning or thinking of going natural. My goal is to help women feel comfortable in their own skin and to be comfortable with the hair on your head. I understand the stress that comes with wearing your natural hair in a society that tells you your hair isn’t beautiful. I want to share some of my experiences and best practices with you.
I am in my mid-twenties. I started getting relaxers in my hair when I was 12 years old. I begged my mom for one because all of my friends had one. Throughout high school, I had a relaxer and a sew in weave(outre 1b 14inches to be exact). My freshman year in college(2008) I had to keep up with all of the girls. Everyone around me had long expensive weaves and bone straight hair. Back then, that was my image of beauty. That’s what the boys liked, I thought. However, my hair was suffering. My hair wasn’t healthy. I wasn’t moisturizing my hair or conditioning it underneath my weaves. In 2009, I decided to stop getting relaxers in my hair because I wanted my hair to be in a healthy state. I no longer wanted to put chemicals in my hair. The first year without a relaxer was very hard! I had absolutely no idea of what I was doing. I didn’t know what hair salons to go to and I didn’t know how to take care of my hair. So what did I do? Well, I tried a few hair salons that put a lot of heat in my hair. I loved going to one in particular because they had my hair bone straight. My hair was layed! After 2 months of going to this salon, I noticed my hair was breaking off. I didn’t realize they were using products that weren’t good for my hair. At this time I was still transitioning, I never did the “big chop”. I stopped going to that particular salon and found a new one. The new salon I went to was good, at least that’s what I thought. They cut some of my relaxed ends and deep conditioned my hair regularly. One day, my hair dresser told me that I needed a relaxer badly. She said that my hair was “too thick”. I felt offended. At this point I was enjoying my freedom from getting a relaxer. She told me that the next time she was going to do my hair, she was going to give me a “much needed touch up”. Needless to say, I never returned.
I started to do my own hair. Besides putting relaxers in my hair, I knew how to press out my hair and I knew how to sew in a weave. So that’s what I did for about a year. I would sew in a weave and press out my hair that was showing. That’s all I knew! Around the middle of 2010, I decided to stop wearing weaves. The reason why I stopped is because I wanted to be true to myself. I did not want to wear someone else’s hair on my head. I made sure I conditioned my hair frequently and moisturized it. However, I was still putting a lot of heat on my hair. I did that for about 5 1/2 years. That was my routine. I would wash and condition my hair, press it out once a week. I would add a little heat almost every day to make sure my hair was straight. In February of 2016, I decided to stop putting heat on my hair. My image of beauty was changing. I wanted to be the truest version of myself. I can honestly say that this was the best decision that I made regarding my hair. It’s been over a year since I put heat on my hair. My hair has grown so much. It’s healthy and strong. I created a healthy hair regiment that I follow every week. I’ve found what products works for me and which styles works for me. I feel so beautiful and I am happy with the hair that God has given me.
“My image of myself was changing as well as my concept of beauty..one day a friend asked me why I wear an afro, natural..the more I thought about it, the better it sounded. To make my hair natural, I literally had to cut the conk out” – Assata Shakur